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The Rclaimed Podcast – Episode 4 – The Ring

After infidelity and divorce, something as beautiful as a diamond can become so broken and ugly that it becomes completely unusable. This is the perfect example of why Reclaiming is so important to Ellie. In this vulnerable episode of The Rclaimed Podcast, Ellie shares how God called her to Reclaim her engagement ring and wedding band through celebrating the future marriage of her brother Michael, and soon-to-be-sister-in-law, Jenna. LJS Design // Jeweler // ljsdesign.com

By Ellie, ago

6 Signs You Might Need to Reclaim Something

Reclaiming is a proactive step towards healing from relational betrayal. While I was getting divorced, I decided to Reclaim places and things that aggravated the pain of my ex-husband’s affair. I often use the example of Reclaiming restaurants, but there are many different things that can and may need to be Reclaimed for the sake of your emotional health and strength. 

By Ellie, ago

Confessions of a Newly-Single Divorcée

About two weeks ago, I went out on what could be described as a “singles mixer.” A friend of mine invited me and a bunch of her friends to go bowling on a Friday night. We were asked to invite other single friends as well. For me, the whole experience was awkward. I barely knew what to say when a guy asked me out. “Umm… I’ll think about it.” I replied.

By Ellie, ago

Perfection in the Progression

I wrote in a journal entry last year, “I’m moving forward but I’m still just where I am right now.” I wanted to be further down the path towards wholeness and healing, but I found myself in the familiar, yet frustrating place of feeling dissatisfied with my progress. “Maybe tomorrow it will feel better.” “Maybe in a month I won’t be crying so much.” “Maybe next year I’ll have it all together.” Although it didn’t Read more…

By Ellie, ago

Reclaiming: Conquering Fears and Pain

“No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us.” Romans 8:37 Shortly after I separated from my ex-husband, I began recognizing places all over town that made me overwhelmingly sad; too sad to ever think of revisiting them. Everywhere I turned, I saw another restaurant, park, or theatre that reminded me of the life I had, and the love (I thought) we shared. Once I discovered his infidelity, these Read more…

By Ellie, ago

Please Stay Tuned…

Dear Reclaiming Buddies, I owe you an apology… I failed drastically at blogging in February. I’ve been utilizing the Ellie’s Emergency Anti-Feeling Crappy About Herself Protocol quite a lot these days. Has it always been a success? No, but I’m growing in my own personal strength and resilience and that’s pretty awesome. Anyway… Big steps are being taken to Reclaim my life and build the Reclaiming community. I’m blown away at how many of you Read more…

By Ellie, ago

A Promise: I Will Not Slander My Ex-Husband

Someone once told me, “You can’t control what happens to you; you can only control your response.” With everything I’ve been through, most people would expect me to be bitter and resentful towards my ex-husband and even cynical about the idea of a fulfilling relationship in the future. This is not the way I chose to live. I am not a victim. A few people have commented or even reached out to me recently to Read more…

By Ellie, ago