My name is Ellie. This blog is telling my story as it happens. I’m on a mission to reclaim my hope in humanity, my happiness and to discover my new life.
On October 13, 2016, I found out my husband was having an affair with a coworker that preceded our 5 1/2 year marriage. I told him I wanted healing, restoration, redemption and wholeness in this marriage. I told him that I wanted to be with him and that I was willing to work hard to make our marriage into the one I thought we had. He told me he didn’t love me, that he loves this other woman and that he doesn’t want to be married. Long story short, I began the divorce process; I took our 9 year old greyhound and moved back in with my parents.
I’m now on a mission of reclaiming my life. I got so sick and tired of avoiding things – restaurants we’d go together, music we’d listen to, and even people. I started taking steps to reclaim old memories. I began going to bars with my friends that I used to frequent with him. My friends and I would laugh, sometimes cry, but always enjoy our time while also acknowledging the memories that lived there. Then, I would declare that location “Reclaimed”! I can now look at that old bar with new memories.
This is my goal: not to forget the past, but to reclaim it! I don’t regret my marriage because it was real to me. I loved my husband well and now I want to let it go in the best way I can.
The List:
- Hard Times
- Saint Marks Theatre
- New York City
- Waldorf
- Serendipity
- Jazz
- Skydiving
- South Africa
- Game drive
- Stellenbosch
- WA Frost
- 612 Brew
- Prohibition
John Denver Music(Reclaimed 3/7/17 with Bethany singing Karaoke at Grumpy’s. I sang Annie’s Song)- Ward 6
- 5-8 Tavern
- Neumann’s
Happy Gnome(Reclaimed 12/?/16 with Bethany and Joe)- St. Paul Hotel Saturday Night Jazz
- Meritage Escargot
- Pazzeluna
- Mickey’s Diner late at night
- Science Museum
- Walk around Rice Park
- Half Marathon
- Dakota Jazz Club
- Artist Quarter
- Cook Diner after a long run
Our Redeemer Lutheran Church(Reclaimed 11/13/16 with Bethany)- Brits Pub Movie
- Kentucky Derby
- Great Waters Brewery
- Twin’s Game
- Gopher Hockey
- Green Mill
- Tamarack Tap Room
- Chicago, IL
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- Andy’s Record Store
- Eat steak tar tar
- Jazz
Kona, HI(Reclaimed 2/25/17-3/3/17 with my parents and brothers)- Beading necklaces for my best friends
- Grandma’s Restaurant in Duluth
- Black Sheep Pizza
- Gasthaus Bavarian Hunter
- Gasthof Octoberfest Celebration
- Mancini’s
- Spoon and Stable
- Remer, MN
- South St. Paul
- Road Trips
- Minneapolis Train Bridge where he proposed to me
- Obento-Ya Japanese Bistro
- Marvel Bar
- Bruentrupt Farm
- St. Paul Cathedral Mass
- Bridge in St. Paul where we’d watch sunrise
- Wicked the Musical
- Pizza Farm in Pepin, WI
- The Olympics
- Hookah Bar
Nose Ring(Reclaimed 3/4/17 with Kristen and Evan in Kailua, HI. I threw the nose ring he gave me into the ocean)Swimming in cold water after a hard run(Reclaimed 3/4/17 with Kristen in Kailua, HI)- Gateway trail bike ride to Stillwater
- London
- Vikings game
- Cossetta’s Rooftop Bar
- Smoke a cigarette when it’s warm outside
- Scary Movie
- Goblin in the Attic
- Finding Dory
Last Ship(Reclaimed on Hawaii trip 2/25/17-3/ 6/17)Finding Neverland(Reclaimed 2/21/17 with Bethany and Tom)- Book of Mormon
- Chicago the Musical
- War Horse
- Catch Me If You Can
- Grease
- Sweeney Todd
Bright Star(Reclaimed on Hawaii trip 2/25/17-3/6/17)- Jet Ski
- Kayaking
Ginger Ale on an airplane(Reclaimed 3/7/17)- Cat Stevens
- Beach Boys
- Coldplay Concert
- Lake Street Dive
- Bonfires
- Smoke a pipe during a bonfire
- JD McPherson
- Drive a Stick
- Drive-In Movie
- March Madness
- Chino Latino
- Barley Johns
- Door County, WI
- Trivia